For Relationships Week 2022, council buildings across Northern Ireland have been illuminated blue and orange to celebrate 75 years of Relate NI, helping break the stigma surrounding reaching out for relationships support.
Engagement. Wedding. House. Kids.upcoming policy conference on September 6th and the launch of our refreshed brand, we want to recognise the new milestones that matter to many of us.For generations, these are the milestones we have used to measure success in our intimate relationships. But times are changing. More and more people are delaying or choosing not to have children. Home-ownership has become unattainable for many of us. And a wedding is now just one of the many ways of showing your commitment. And what about the importance of relationships with our friends, families and colleagues? The traditional relationship milestones, while completely valid for those who want them, no longer suit everyone – so it’s time we started celebrating new ones too. That’s why this Relationships Week, as we celebrate our own milestone of turning 75 years old, with our
Whether it’s deciding to not to have children, finding our chosen family, recognising the anniversary of our oldest friendships or appreciating the support we give to our neighbours – we can relate.
From romances to roommates, from colleagues to co-parents, in order to maintain healthy relationships, we have to work on them regularly. We have a range of support services as well as self-help tips & tools to help you carry out some relationship maintenance.
One milestone that many of us have in common is putting our car through an MOT. Why not take your relationship for one too?
This 50-minute session is an accessible way for couples to check in with each other, and carry out some relationship maintenance and maybe even add some sparkle.
Your counsellor will help you identify the strengths in your relationship, as well as the areas for improvement before you leave with some activities and resources you can do together to help you address any issues and move forward together.
Want to tell them how much you love them? Tired of doing the majority of the household chores? Want to have better sex? Book your Relationship MOT today.
Clarifying your goals is an important first step to carrying out relationship maintenance. Do you want to communicate more effectively? Do you want to spend more time together? Do you want to spend less time together? Whatever it may be, keeping your relationship goals front and centre can help you to stay motivated to achieving them.
That’s why we have created our Relationship Milestone Maps, which are available to download below for free.
Milestone Maps are to be used like vision boards, come up with your relationship goals, then hang it on your fridge or your desk to remind you to keep on working towards them.« Relieve The Pressure – Take A Breath Relationships Matter Manifesto – AE22 »
Our counsellor was excellent and really helped me and my husband to resolve the niggles in our relationshipService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Couples
My counsellor was lovely, attentive and supportive. She helped me to understand my worth and for that, I will always be gratefulService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Individuals
This service is invaluable. Such lovely people to meet and help you through difficult times.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Couples
The service was excellent, my counsellor was really good at getting us to open up and helping us to get to the root of our issues. We have definitely improved our communication since attending.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Couples
I found the Relationship MOT an excellent method of focusing on how we work as a couple and just as importantly, where we need to work. It was professional, insightful and well worth the time. It has reminded us of how much we have to be proud of in our relationship and why it is so important to occasionally review it with experts.Service Attended Relationship MOT
I would definitely recommend using the Relationship MOT service as a bit of a check in with your partner. I thought how the counsellor was able to steer the conversation was very insightful and nuanced. The MOT reminded us about why we are great together but also the importance of communication and respect.” “Our counsellor provided an outside perspective which immediately helped us to agree that we needed to stop and think with more kindness and empathy for each other especially when stressed or pissed off. We both felt that our counsellor’s excellent and gentle facilitation was quite invigorating. So many positives!Service Attended Relationship MOT 2
Very Interesting Content. I like the concept of preparing your relationship before you have problemsService Attended Sustaining Healthy Relationships – Surestart 4
The face to face programme has made me feel connected with others experiencing similar thingsService Attended Sustaining Healthy Relationships – Surestart 3
The workshops made me more confident to balance family life after the baby's arrivalService Attended Sustaining Healthy Relationships – Surestart 2
I now have a better understanding of myself, it is good to know that it is normal to have argumentsService Attended Sustaining Healthy Relationships – Surestart 1
I felt the weekly questionnaire, couples with the counsellor's understanding of my needs help contribute to my own understanding of my mental health and needs throughout.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Individuals
I loved every session. Our counsellor listened to what we had to say and gave us helpful wee homework - would recommend this service to everybodyService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Couples
Our counsellor was a fantastic support - we now feel strong enough to continue working on our relationship togetherService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Couples
I had a very good counsellor that helped me through a lot and it has made me come out the other side.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Individuals
Counselling took us from a bad place to a good one and I would return if neededService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Couples
Been a lifeline to help us fall in love again - forever grateful!Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Couples
I would just like to say that when I first came for counselling I felt that I was drowning. I have completed my sessions and I now feel that I can cope a lot better with everything. Thank you for a brilliant service.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Individuals
Thank you Relate NI for a good nights sleep.Service Attended Relate NI Kids Counselling
Really enjoyed Relate NI and I'm actually going to miss counselling. I Found it helpful to find myself again. Very fair and equal within our relationship.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Couples
I appreciated the straightforward, helpful and informed observations about situations. It really helped me cope during Christmas which is a difficult time for usService Attended Family Counselling
The counsellor was very pleasant to meet with. They had the necessary skills to speak and listen when appropriate. I liked their humour and good personality.Service Attended Family Counselling
Relate NI has helped me move on as well as understand myself and situation more. My counsellor listened to me, facilitated me and was compassionate!Service Attended Relate NI Teen Counselling
I felt the weekly questionnaire, coupled with counsellor's understanding of my needs helped contribute to my own understanding of my mental health and needs throughoutService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Individuals
We had four funded sessions and cannot express how grateful we are for the help, guidance and knowledge. Our counsellor was incredibly professional, and her experience and obvious passion for helping couples like us was exceptional. She helped us to understand ourselves and each other like we otherwise never would have been able to.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Couples
I have tried counselling many times in the past. This time actually made a difference. I was able to complete online sessions as well as some face to face.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Individuals