Co-Parenting at Christmas

Co-Parenting at Christmas

Not coping with Co-Parenting at Christmas?

Co-parenting at Christmas can be difficult. Conflict and communication issues can arise when discussing how to share parenting over Christmas.

It’s hard to always hide miscommunication and conflict from children, more often than not they are able to pick up that something is wrong. Conflict is inevitable in even the healthiest of relationships. However, the way that parents work out their differences can impact their kid’s for life. It’s important that when conflict does arise, you are able to deal with it effectively to prevent arguments and fall outs arising.

Relate NI believe that children who grow up with parents who have low parental conflict, whether together or separated, enjoy better physical and mental health, higher educational attainment and a lower likelihood of engaging in risky behaviour.

Negotiation, respect and support are three key ingredients of successful co-parenting relationships, it’s important to value what each other bring to the parenting table.

Supportive co-parenting for children in both sole custody and joint custody families is crucial to support the development of children. It is not the amount of time with each parent in joint custody families that makes for better mental health outcomes but the quality of the parent-parent relationship.

Our Relieve the Pressure tips and tools provide practical resources for co-parents to navigate the festive period in an effective way that can minimise conflict and provide the best outcome for all involved.

Not coping with co-parenting? We can Relate. Watch this space for a new announcement in the New Year!

Coordinating Co-Parenting at Christmas

  • Download an app to communicate, make plans and monitor updates on Co-Parenting plans over the festive period. Talking Parents, which can be accessed here, is an online communication tool for co-parents. It’s designed to create a system that records communications between parents.
  • Make sure to take notes of plans straight after they have been agreed to ensure that details are correct and that everything runs smoothly.
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