Many (or most) parents I’ve talked to have found lockdown a challenge, although for different reasons.
As a mum to a 6-year-old (Reuben), we were no different. I’d go as far as to say many days and in many ways it was a struggle. We had ups and downs, tears and fears, tantrums and frustrations… and that was just me!
If I had to name our biggest hurdle it was home school or home learning, call it what you will, it was hard! After the first few days the novelty wore off, for both of us. Reuben missed his teacher, his routine, his friends and his activities.
I missed dropping him off at School with the freedom to get on with work, knowing I’d see him later that day with smiles and stories galore of how his day had been.
Working from home while trying to educate (I feel that might be too generous a term!) was, on many occasions, a bit of a disaster. It was an uphill battle most days getting the time I needed to email, write, or Zoom and I also felt guilty that I wasn’t excelling as an educator, that he was one his own as I worked and I worried about him falling behind.
But it wasn’t only ‘school’ we found hard. Reuben was lonely for the company of other kids, he missed his grandparents constantly (and zoom calls didn’t cut it) and we longed for our weekly traditions like a McDonalds Happy Meal after Friday night football.
All of this expressed itself in ups and downs, tears and fears, tantrums and frustrations.
And yet despite the difficult days, it wasn’t all gloom and doom. There were moments of light and bright. Reuben learned to ride his bike during lockdown and is now a pro. He even got me back out on mine with him every day. We started to swim in the sea together a few times a week. We made homemade pizza’s; he tried Ice Cream Soda for the first time (verdict – not to be repeated); we played endless games of Monopoly on the wet days and Swing Ball together on the warm ones, and we had a few too many (or maybe not enough) late-night movies with popcorn.
Without lockdown I fear I might not have made, or felt I had time, for those things. And those really are important things – lockdown taught me that lesson. Those are the things he’ll remember most about this season, I hope. At least they are what he’s talking about present day, as we move out of life in lockdown, and not the teacher he had for term three of P2.
We survived (just about some days) lockdown and we did it together.
Have you seen that girl?
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