Supporting Our Kids by Dealing with Our Issues as Parents

Supporting Our Kids by Dealing with Our Issues as Parents

Relate NI is passionate about enabling good quality relationships. Through our 75 years’ experience of working with people throughout Northern Ireland, we’ve come to understand that relationships not only give our lives meaning, they are of vital importance to our wellbeing. Evidence now demonstrates why good quality relationships matter. They can protect us from the effects of long term health problems; help our recovery, and can even prevent illness in the first place.

We know that conflict between parents and in families is always going to happen and is totally normal (we are all human) but how it is handled, has a massive impact on the future of our kids. The evidence shows that children growing up with parents who have low levels of parental conflict or well-resolved parental conflict, whether they are together or separated, enjoy better physical and mental health, better emotional wellbeing, higher qualifications and a lower likelihood of engaging in risky behaviours.

The evidence also shows children of all ages can be affected by destructive or poorly resolved parental conflict, with the effects shown across babies, childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. This can present as mental health problems, dropping out of school sooner, poorer relationships with friends, drugs and alcohol misuse, poor future romantic relationship chances, low employability, and a higher chance of engaging in physical violence. The impact of parental conflict on children can be varied and long-lasting, as there is always the risk that relationship behaviours and problems will be repeated.

Relate NI provides adult relationship counselling for both couples and individuals, which can be an effective intervention for helping you to manage unhelpful conflict in your relationship, and develop strategies for how to move forward in a way that is best for your children.

 

Relate NI provides adult relationship counselling for both couples and individuals, which can be an effective intervention for helping you to manage unhelpful conflict in your relationship, and develop strategies for how to move forward in a way that is best for your children.

There are a number of ways to access this service including by self-referral, or through a number of our national contract partners. Parents of children under 18 can access services fully funded by the HSCB, through a referral by their GP, Social Worker or other Healthcare professional.

We also have a range of tips, tools and resources to help you carry out some relationship maintenance.

Sustaining Healthy Relationships Workshops

Thanks to support from the Dormant Accounts Fund, Relate NI are also developing sustaining healthy relationship workshops to provide the skills and tools to manage the rough and tumble of all types of relationships. For further information about getting your group booked in for free, contact:

Kellie O’Dowd, Development Manager

kellieodowd@relateni.org

02890323454

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“How Relate NI helps people”

Very Interesting Content. I like the concept of preparing your relationship before you have problemsService Attended Sustaining Healthy Relationships – Surestart 4
The face to face programme has made me feel connected with others experiencing similar thingsService Attended Sustaining Healthy Relationships – Surestart 3
The workshops made me more confident to balance family life after the baby's arrivalService Attended Sustaining Healthy Relationships – Surestart 2
I now have a better understanding of myself, it is good to know that it is normal to have argumentsService Attended Sustaining Healthy Relationships – Surestart 1
I felt the weekly questionnaire, couples with the counsellor's understanding of my needs help contribute to my own understanding of my mental health and needs throughout.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Individuals
I loved every session. Our counsellor listened to what we had to say and gave us helpful wee homework - would recommend this service to everybodyService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Couples
Our counsellor was a fantastic support - we now feel strong enough to continue working on our relationship togetherService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Couples
I had a very good counsellor that helped me through a lot and it has made me come out the other side.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling for Individuals
Counselling took us from a bad place to a good one and I would return if neededService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Couples
Been a lifeline to help us fall in love again - forever grateful!Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Couples
I would just like to say that when I first came for counselling I felt that I was drowning.  I have completed my sessions and I now feel that I can cope a lot better with everything.  Thank you for a brilliant service.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Individuals
Thank you Relate NI for a good nights sleep.Service Attended Relate NI Kids Counselling
Really enjoyed Relate NI and I'm actually going to miss counselling.  I Found it helpful to find myself again. Very fair and equal within our relationship.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Couples
I appreciated the straightforward, helpful and informed observations about situations. It really helped me cope during Christmas which is a difficult time for usService Attended Family Counselling
The counsellor was very pleasant to meet with.  They had the necessary skills to speak and listen when appropriate.  I liked their humour and good personality.Service Attended Family Counselling
Relate NI has helped me move on as well as understand myself and situation more.  My counsellor listened to me, facilitated me and was compassionate!Service Attended Relate NI Teen Counselling
I felt the weekly questionnaire, coupled with counsellor's understanding of my needs helped contribute to my own understanding of my mental health and needs throughoutService Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Individuals
We had four funded sessions and cannot express how grateful we are for the help, guidance and knowledge. Our counsellor was incredibly professional, and her experience and obvious passion for helping couples like us was exceptional. She helped us to understand ourselves and each other like we otherwise never would have been able to.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Couples
I have tried counselling many times in the past. This time actually made a difference. I was able to complete online sessions as well as some face to face.Service Attended Adult Relationship Counselling For Individuals

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